A Wonderful World

The Reality of Mental battles and Stigma.   Suicide is happening now.    It’s real and it’s killing. When we experience pain on the inside, it’s not always evident to others and can be hard to accept we’re really not alone. The festering or pain that the silence of one’s suffering can cause, is something we don’t have to ignore, reject or judge. We should never have to suffer in silence when no matter how challenging it may feel to reach out, with this many other humans in the world, we always can. We can and be listened to and heard without judgement. When enclosed in the cape of darkness, you believe that the only solution to the seemingly unsolvable suffering is to end it all by ending oneself. A quick ‘fix’ which in fact is a sudden ‘break’, the only thing that is unfixable. When feeling trapped it can be viewed as the only escape. But it doesn’t have to be that way when we work to remove stigma attached to reaching out when suffering, when we choose kindness....

Changing our view on therapy and displaying emotions?  We have a range of emotions and potential feelings we can experience as a consequence of what's happening in our lives, around us or in our minds. Displaying, sharing, or experiencing them are human, not  weak.  We are conditioned to hide our feelings from an early age, ‘be strong’, particularly men, ‘man up’, and you’re weak if you show any form of vulnerability.  We feel bad about feeling a certain way because of what we’re taught to associate with particular feelings. But all feelings are valid.  Crying is a release, vulnerability is a strength, a willingness to open yourself and truly give yourself the opportunity to feel and not block, stunt, or suppress what’s inside. As powerful as we are as individuals, we cannot do everything alone. It’s can be scary to reach out at times, especially when you don’t understand what’s going on and you can’t even explain how, why and what you’re feeling. It takes cour...

‘Only in darkness can you see the stars’ – Martin Luther King Jr.  Mental illness cannot be seen.  It’s up to us to alter our perspective on mental illness, depression or any other diagnosis for that matter. Removing judgement, acknowledging appropriate care and support and caring for ourselves and others mentally as much as we are often concerned to physically. You can’t see mental pain and emotional pain, unless it manifests itself physically. But often as humans what we struggle with internally, we mask externally. If someone has their leg in a cast or they have scars, it is proof of their pain. That they are or once struggled with turmoil. But when it comes to mental struggle, we feel we have no proof or way of articulating what’s going on. We may question whether others will believe us if we speak up, or they don’t believe us when we do. The effects may be evident but what’s really going on inside is only in the individual battling it. It’s become a taboo or has stigma ...

'Your Health is Your Wealth'  A saying that's frequently circulated, but what does it actually mean?  One particular statement that my great Nan taught me and I hold close is, ‘your health is your wealth’, without prioritising that, nothing else matters. In today's society we can often forget that and place wealth as the greatest priority, in a world and system that can be competitive, we let our value be defined by our wealth. Of course, I'm not naive to the fact that possession of money can bring a certain level of freedom to our lives, and we can still take steps to reduce unnecessary suffering or divide, but when we take a step back and view the world and ourselves for a wider perspective, it's valuing our health that will ensure we live a life of longevity and happiness.  There are external elements that may bring an aspect of opportunity, but I believe health is what brings abundance. Your health, no one else’s. As we are all different it cannot be defined...

Acknowledging and Accepting your own worth. What is 'Self Worth'?  I often remind myself that although we are all different, we are all worthy. ‘Self-worth’ is a term that’s thrown around. Knowing and accepting your own ‘worth’ can be difficult when what it means is not fully understood. Personally, I like to define self worth as 'a sense of one's own value as a human being', it's about a level of respect and regard for yourself living in this world. What's the difference between 'Self worth' and 'Self Esteem'?  For me, separating self-worth and self-esteem is helpful. I like to think that self-worth is about knowing and accepting your own value, whereas self-esteem is about confidence. They are similar and equal in importance but they aren’t the same. Self-worth can remain constant, whereas self-esteem can shift dependant on confidence. My theory is that self-worth is the root, it’s the building block and glue that holds you together. If...